Stormy Days in Our Lives…

Stormy Days in Our Lives…

There seems to be no avoiding stormy and difficult days in life. Like the seasons they come and go with some regularity and when they do it is a major storm that seems like none every experienced before.

A Tropical Storm came through last night and I made my way to the beach to exercise around low tide this morning. For the most part the storm had passed but the effects of the storm lingered on the beach as it seems the effects of personal issues always seem to hang around in our lives.

Upon seeing the beach my first thought was that there was a new layer of sand covering everything. The troves of beautiful seashells from yesterday were gone now buried in the sand. Or maybe they were washed far out to sea?

Isn’t that what happens sometimes when a storm comes into our lives? We survive it somehow and then bury the evidence like an old smelly dead turtle because that is what we have to do to survive. We have to insulate ourselves from the hurt.

Centuries later treasure hunters come digging in the sand and find those precious shells. Why can’t we go back and extract the learning and the inspiration from our failures in life or the failures of others in our lives? Maybe we can and prosper from the experience.

I looked out to sea and roughness of the waters even hours after the storm passed entered my thinking. Waves breaking, white water crashing and currents in every direction it seemed. How chaotic it must have been during the storm. I pictured a little boat trying to just survive the torrent waters of the angry seas.

My thoughts turned to a scene in Good Will Hunting with a painting tat depicts a similar setting. The first meeting between therapist Sean Maguire (Robin Williams) and old 20-Will Hunting (Matt Damon) did not go well. But later on they had a conversation about relationships- Maguire and his wife who died of cancer and Will’s emerging love affair with Skylar (Minnie Driver).

“People call these things imperfections but they are not, that is the good stuff. And then we get to chose who we let into our weird little worlds, you are not perfect sport, and let me save you the suspense, this girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is whether or not you are perfect for each other. That’s the whole deal. That’s what intimacy is all about. Now you can know everything in the world sport, but the only way you are finding out that one is by giving it a shot.” 

Giving it a shot… have we learned that the relationship with ourselves is perfect even though we are not?

Is it that time in life where we are willing but maybe not able to give it a shot with another human being?

Let’s not bury our heads in the sand for life is too short.

Storms come and go and so do our opportunities in life.

Is it time to give it a shot even though the storm has only just passed and stormy thoughts still remain in our head?

We are lucky because we are alive and have the opportunity.

For some the storms in life ended with loss of life.

Celebrate the essence of life and be happy when another storm comes through our lives…  

Have a TROML Day Today!

Anonymous Andy

Your Personal Revivalist