Depressed

If you are suffering from the mental illness depression please seek medical attention immediately. Symptoms include persistently feeling in a low mood and a loss of interest or pleasure in normally enjoyable activities. Please get help if you need it, depression is quite common and not something to be ashamed of or embarrassed by. TROML means there is always hope with any step towards getting the help we need.

2 depressedBeing depressed is also a normal emotion that comes and goes. It can be an unsettling feeling and one that when it comes seems like it will never go away but it does. Everyone feels the emotion of being depressed sometime in their life if not more often when things we have no control over change when we don’t want them to change. The death of a family member or friend or even someone we don’t know but identify with. Ours is a tragic world at times and broadcasting that tragedy on television, the internet and the radio seems to be the thing to do. The key is to balance the bad news with the good news and to be truly grateful for what we do have.

 

 

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3 feeling depressedMake a decision to accept the emotion of depressed and then move on to doing and being the opposite—cheerful, fortunate, glad, happy, lucky, and optimistic from the inside-out. Find a quiet place and pull out your TROML Journal and make a list of those things in your life today that you are thankful for. Add to that those positive, happy activities that are already scheduled to occur in the future. Let’s be grateful for what we do have. When the emotion of depression comes into our life let’s us it as an opportunity to explore and find out what is behind it. Happiness and the steps needed to be taken to be happy are always a choice for us to make.

Be depressed for a short time and then be happy!

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Depressed (adjective):

1.   sad and gloomy; dejected; downcast.

2.   undergoing economic hardship, especially poverty and unemployment.

3.   being or measured below the standard or norm.

4.   Psychiatry. suffering from depression.

Synonyms:   saddened, morose, despondent, miserable; blue; morbid.

Antonyms:   cheerful, fortunate, glad, happy, lucky, optimistic

In Memory of Andrea Sloan; A Beautiful Human Being…

Andrea Sloan, a beautiful human being inside any one that knew of her spirit in life!

Andrea Sloan, a beautiful human being inside any one that knew of her spirit in life!

God Bless Andrea Sloan as she not only battles for her life but also BioMarin. My 19-year old nephew died after battling cancer for 3 years. He was granted the use of compassionate drugs and one of his legacies is that he helped advance science to help those that come behind him. This is not a selfish request by Andrea, it is a sign of love for other human beings that she does not even know. BioMarin Pharmaceutical is being selfish in my opinion, if you have something that may help a willing patient I think ethically you have the responsibility to share it.   (Facebook Post with Link, Andy Reistetter, 9/28/13)

William Hudson’s article is below and below that is Andrea’s obituary. She passed on January 1, 2014 as an inspiration to all. There has not been a more beautiful tribute written, don’t miss it. I am sad that I was unable to meet her as I passed through Texas on my Journey to Olympic Golf but somehow I think I did and her inspiration inside me will surely never die.

In Cancer Drug Battle, Both Sides Appeal to Ethics

By William Hudson, CNN

All Credit given to William Hudson with gratitude!

Updated 5:38 PM ET, Sat September 28, 2013

Story Highlights

Andrea Sloan, 45, has ovarian cancer

She is seeking “compassionate use” of a new drug that’s not FDA-approved

Sloan says she’s willing to accept the risks

Andrea Sloan is dying of ovarian cancer. Having exhausted all standard treatment options, her doctors say her best hope now is a new class of cancer drugs called PARP inhibitors.

The California pharmaceutical company BioMarin makes one version of these drugs called BMN 673. Earlier this year, the company presented very early data on this experimental drug at a large cancer conference. Initial results in women with breast and ovarian cancer were encouraging.

Sloan says there are doses of BMN 673 sitting on shelves in the same hospital where she’s seeking treatment: M.D. Anderson Cancer Center.

But she’s not getting the treatment because the company is refusing to give it to her. That’s because this drug she wants is still in clinical trials, and the company says hasn’t been proven effective.

Sloan is a 45 year-old attorney in Austin, Texas, who has ovarian cancer.

Sloan is a 45 year-old attorney in Austin, Texas, who has ovarian cancer.

BioMarin points out that to date their drug has been tested in fewer than 30 patients with ovarian cancer like Sloan.

“It would be unethical and reckless to provide end-stage refractory ovarian cancer patients outside a clinical trial with BMN 673 at this early stage of development,” says company spokesperson Debra Charlesworth.

“If we did, we would be exposing an experimental drug to a large group without adequate testing. There have been previous circumstances where early access to large groups has resulted in adverse consequences that were worse than the course of the disease.”

But Sloan says she’s willing to accept the risks — to roll the dice now that her doctors have tried everything else they can to save her life, including multiple rounds of surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation since she was first diagnosed with cancer in 2007.

And her doctor supports her.

She has the help of a PR firm, working pro bono, to bring attention to her case, and a change.org petition for her cause has collected more than 150,000 supporters. It will likely be years before BMN 673 is on the market, but Andrea says she does not have that long to wait.

PARP inhibitors work by preventing DNA repair in cancer cells, and are thought to work especially well in patients with a particular gene mutation.

“One of the reasons she’s such a great candidate for PARP inhibitors specifically is because she has a BRCA mutation,” says Dr. Charles Levenback, Sloan’s oncologist at M.D. Anderson Cancer Center.

“She has a hereditary form of ovarian cancer, so we believe she has a much better chance of responding to PARP inhibitors than patients with a nonhereditary type of ovarian cancer.”

Levenback says Sloan doesn’t meet the eligibility requirements for any open clinical trials to the best of his knowledge. If she did, he would not be seeking compassionate use for his patient in the first place, he says.

BioMarin is conducting more clinical trials, but in breast cancer only, not ovarian cancer.

The standoff between Sloan and BioMarin raises the question: When should patients get access to experimental drugs?

Under “Compassionate Use” or “Expanded Access”, the Food and Drug Administration allows an unapproved drug still in development to go to a patient with few alternatives remaining, also absolving the drug maker of liability should the drug not work or cause harm.

The FDA has said Sloan qualifies to seek compassionate use of BMN 673, but BioMarin won’t provide it and they don’t have to.

“You have the FDA saying, ‘Look we’ll approve compassionate care.’ You have the doctor who is the specialist saying: ‘This is the right thing to do.’ And you have a corporation protecting its wallet at the expense of Andrea possibly dying,” says Newt Gingrich, co-host of CNN’s “Crossfire,” who has been gathering support for Sloan’s case.

“If you want to know why big companies often get bad names, it’s explaining that clerical support to fill out FDA paperwork is too difficult when you can save a life.”

BioMarin says it does provide “expanded access” to patients for another drug which is further along in the clinical trial process, and that the company expects to spend $50 million or approximately 10% of its revenue in 2013 on providing free drugs to patients.

BioMarin also notes that other drug companies are developing PARP inhibitors too, so they’re not the only potential source for Sloan.

The company points to an AstraZeneca clinical trial currently enrolling ovarian cancer patients, but Sloan’s doctor says she doesn’t qualify.

“We’re focused on BioMarin because initially that is the one that one of my doctors had the most direct experience with and recommended,” says Sloan, whose doctors at M.D. Anderson also participate in BioMarin’s clinical testing.

“The compassionate use policy exists for exactly this situation, and this is how patients lose: I lose if BioMarin is able to say ‘Well you need to go ask for it from one of the other three’,” says Sloan.

Art Caplan, professor of Bioethics at NYU Langone Medical Center, says the scatter-shot way in which individual patients are left to petitioning drug companies for access to experimental drugs creates an unfair process.

“One problem in this country is we haven’t set up a system. Right now what we’ve got is a squeaky-wheel lottery; if you can figure out what your options are, if you know how to use social media, if you know how to have a bake sale, if you can hire a PR firm — you can have a shot at an unapproved drug,” says Caplan.

“But that’s all obviously inequitable relative to the number of people who might want to seek compassionate use.”

Caplan says that without more safety and efficacy data on BioMarin’s drug, it’s too early in the process for a compassionate use exception for a different form of cancer than the one BioMarin is targeting. There’s still a big risk that the drug could harm Sloan, speeding her death, as much as it helps her, he says.

Sloan’s doctor agrees the system needs changing.

“My own belief is that the drug companies, the manufacturers, the insurance companies, the providers like my hospital M.D. Anderson, the individual medical professionals, the investigators, the patients — everybody wants the same things. Safe, effect, novel therapies for as many people as it’s appropriate for,” says Levenback.

“Even BioMarin, I believe. I don’t think this is like ‘Let the masses eat cake.’ I think they’re on the same mission. But the whole system is giving this dysfunctional result.”

Levenback says the window for Sloan is closing. If it’s going to be effective, she will need the new drug soon. Knowledge of that fact has put Sloan on a mission, and she says she’s not giving up.

 

SLOAN, Andrea (Obituary)

Andrea Sloan, a beautiful spirit in life and beyond! Photo Credit: Legacy.com

Andrea Sloan, a beautiful spirit in life and beyond! Photo Credit: Legacy.com

Andrea Sloan completed a life abundantly well-lived on January 1, 2014. This beloved woman was known to her multitude of family, friends, admirers and supporters as a spitfire of generous, loving exuberance.

Though her years in this world were fewer than we hoped, let it be known the reason: Most all mundane hours and periods of sour spirit or wasteful failure of character were intentionally carved out of Andrea’s life, resulting in such a concentration of zestful eagerness, sincerity, character, strength, passion, kindness and luminosity that only the most courageous and determined soul could possibly have owned it. And she did.

Andrea was born January 23, 1968 and grew up on the trail of her parents’ teaching careers, which took the family to some of America’s most beautiful places including Durango, Colorado; Park City, Utah; California; and Wyoming.

She competed on the swim and soccer teams in grade school; at Robert E. Lee High School in Tyler, she was a member of the National Honor Society, participated in the gifted program in all academic areas, competed with the debate team and was chosen for both Girls State and Presidential Classroom. She earned a B.A. in Government from the University of Texas at Austin, where she also earned her law degree in 1997.

Andrea started her career around the Capitol as a page and quickly advanced to serve as a Legislative Aide for Rep. James Hury and Rep. Jim McReynolds, then as a junior lobbyist for Louis Bacarisse & Associates. She worked for eight years at Haynes & Boone law firm, where she practiced construction litigation while also serving meaningful causes including the Texas Freedom Network, the Texas Hill Country Ride for AIDS and United Way of Central Texas. She served on and chaired the City of Austin’s HIV Planning Council.

In 2005, she was named Executive Director and General Counsel for the Texas Advocacy Project, where she oversaw a staff of attorneys providing free legal services to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

She spoke of her passion in life as ‘serving up a bowl of justice’ because she was driven to use her law degree to help inject an increased level of fairness into all aspects of our world. Andrea was a zealous and effective advocate for her clients but always in the context of being a thoughtful, ethical officer of the court.

Andrea was a ‘foodie.’ Topping her list was the white queso at Zocalo. She loved the mac & cheese and brussel sprouts at Perla’s, the migas at South Congress Café, the fresh pastas at Becco’s in New York’s Hell’s Kitchen, her mother’s ravioli at home, the salsa bar and cheese enchiladas at Polvos, the Mezza platter at Phara’s, Italian cream cake, Kalamata olives and, of course, thin and crispy crust pizza!

A committed vegetarian, she had a huge heart for all animals. She treasured the many German Shepherd and Belgian Malinois dogs she had adopted over time, and in recent years she spent many hours with her beloved Quarter Horse, Heathen.

Andrea loved having fun. She put on vampire teeth to pass out Halloween candy. She held Christmas cookie parties that became sleepovers because no one wanted to leave. She loved trips to Bandera, and her friends dubbed her ‘Bandrea’ because of her love of the town and its cowboy culture.

Music fueled her Rock Star life. If there was a concert within 300 miles, it was fair game for a road trip. She was a dedicated Bon Jovi fan and loved ‘hair bands’ from the ’80s as well as The Bellamy Brothers and Luke Bryan.

Andrea learned that she had ovarian cancer in 2006, but she did not let that change the way she lived her life outside of treatments. Her love for adventure only grew as she traveled more often and to farther-flung places. This petite blonde loved to ride her Harley Davidson, but she traded it for the serenity and adventure offered by time spent with her faithful steed, Heathen.

She loved adventure and was at home in nature. She cycled across Alaska for an AIDS fundraiser, hiked the Narrows at Zion National Park and whitewater rafted in the Grand Canyon. She had entertained the idea of someday becoming a National Park Ranger, and the National Park Service awarded Andrea an honorary membership last year.

Andrea was a faithful blogger who loved words. She was a careful speaker and a great listener. She admired strength of character in people who do the right thing even when it’s hard. She always made time for the people she loved.

She loved her family: her parents and sister; her niece, nephews and brother-in-law; her cousins; and her ‘framily’ of friends. She was passionate about being Aunt Andi. She cared deeply for the children and often engaged her friends in planning new ways to spoil them.

She was a strong believer in God, a Christian who greatly respected the right of others to practice their beliefs in their own personal way. Her faith gave her great strength and courage to fight cancer and to accept her destiny with grace and gratitude.

She loved and appreciated her life, blogging that she would not choose to rewrite any part of her story. While she did not choose her battle with cancer, she certainly chose the means by which she would face it with faith, humor and the will to summon new courage every day.

In this, and in her advocacy on behalf of all cancer patients, she inspired people across Texas, the nation and the world who logged in daily to read her quips of wisdom, progress reports and enlist themselves in ‘Andi’s Army’ to advocate alongside her for Compassionate Use Reform.

Andrea was preceded in death by her maternal grandfather, Fay Livers of Longview, Texas; paternal grandmother Grace Daluiso Santolucito of San Bernardino, Calif.; paternal grandfather Gordon Sloan of San Bernardino, Calif.; aunt Rebecca Livers Oliver of Longview, Texas; and aunt Marilyn Donovan of Salt Lake City, Utah.

She is survived by the most phenomenal parents on the planet, John Harmon Sloan and Karen Livers Sloan of Tyler, Texas; sister Ashley Sloan Harrison, brother-in-law Andrew Harrison, niece Anne-Marie, and nephews Pike and Price, all of Round Rock, Texas; maternal grandmother Elsie Albin Livers of Longview, Texas; aunt Jan Sloan of Salt Lake City, Utah; uncles Gordon Sloan of West Jordan, Utah; Michael Sloan of Dayton, Ohio, and Donald Oliver of Longview, Texas; and many first and second cousins. She is survived by her BFFs Michelle Wittenburg of Austin, Mary Smith of Tyler, Blair Hodgkins of Austin, and by countless more friends everywhere.

 

The family extends its most sincere gratitude to Andrea’s beloved and committed oncologist and lifesaver, Dr. Charles Levenback at MD Anderson, and to her extraordinary medical team: Drs. Robert Coleman, John Meroney, Yago Nieto, Anuja Jhingran, Carol Lewis and nurse Celine Chacko.

 

A celebration of her life will be held Friday, Jan. 31 at 4:30 p.m. at Camp Lucy, 3509 Creek Road, in Dripping Springs.

 

Andrea asked for any gifts in her name to benefit one or more of the following: MD Anderson’s Ovarian Moon Shots Program (https://gifts.mdanderson.org/), be sure to select “in memory of” Andrea Sloan or mail to MD Anderson Center, Andrea Sloan Memorial Fund, PO Box 4486, Houston, TX 77210-4486; the KK125 Ovarian Cancer Research Foundation (www.kk125.org or PO Box 12581, Austin, TX 78711); or the Texas Advocacy Project (https://www.texasadvocacyproject.org/donate.php or 1524 S. IH 35, Box 19, Austin, TX 78704).

Published in Austin American-Statesman from Jan. 25 to Jan. 26, 2014

 

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TPC Scottsdale World Record 179,022

The number 179,022 will always be etched in my mind. That’s how many people came out to watch the Waste Management Phoenix Open on Saturday this year. On Saturday, one day alone. It was a record for the tournament and in the history of golf as far as anyone knows.

If you explore the Guinness World Record website there are 82 results for ‘golf’ but no category for the ‘most people to watch a single-day golf event in person.’ There are records for the ‘largest one-day golf tournament,’ the ‘largest golf facility,’ and the ‘most people playing golf walking on a single golf course in 24 hours.’ But none for the largest gallery ever to watch golf in person.

Thunderbird Bob Wasser in position on the 16th tee.

Thunderbird Bob Wasser in position on the 16th tee.

Of course, there is a strong community charity consciousness in the Phoenix-Scottsdale metropolis. The Thunderbirds, hosts of the WMPO, are a charitable organization that has been around since 1937. There is a cadre of sales and marketing professionals associated with TPC Scottsdale golf course, the Waste Management Phoenix Open golf tournament and the PGA TOUR.  The tournament predates even The Masters with its roots in the 1932 Arizona Open and has been contested 74 times since then. Over 80 million dollars has been donated to Arizona charities with 5.5 million coming in 2012 alone.

These folks know what they are doing leveraging a lot of history and tradition. But still, 179,022 golf spectators on one golf course on one day! More than America’s other top sports- baseball, basketball and football. More than a record 115,300 at the Dodgers-Red Sox game in L.A. in 2008; more than a record 108,713 at the N.B.A. All-Star game in Dallas in 2010 and certainly more than can fit in any football stadium in America.

There was never a doubt watching Phil Mickelson open with a 60 this year, then adding rounds of 65-64-67 to win by four strokes for a record-tying third time (with Mark Calcavecchia, Gene Littler and Arnold Palmer). Thursday’s attendance was 79,532, Friday’s at 121,901 with Saturday the peak at 179,022—a total of 525,821 for the week! Amazing!

Other than the golf, the most amazing sight of the week was to stand on a hillside off to the right of the 18th green and see the people flood in beneath an overpass coming from the main entrance. Seas of people, imagine the sidewalks of Manhattan at lunch hour and the entire width of 5th Avenue as well. Non-stop for as long as you wanted to watch.

Where do these people go on an 18-hole golf course that has ample room, certainly no Merion but nonetheless there are 179,022 people! The hospitality areas surrounding the 17th and 18th holes are legendary and swallow up a big chunk of the masses. Then there is the Stadium in golf encompassing the par-3 16th hole. Nearly 20,000 right there.

Tracking board in the media center shows the record 179,022 for Saturday and total of 525,821 for the week!

Tracking board in the media center shows the record 179,022 for Saturday and total of 525,821 for the week!

Coming back to play the Stadium Course at TPC Scottsdale a few weeks after the tournament on the way to the WGC Accenture Match Play, the wintery wonderland we now know as Dove Mountain, was a real treat. Gone were the 179,022 Saturday patrons yet the majority of the Stadium on the 17th remained.

TPC Scottsdale is an awesome golf course to play in its own right. A Tom Weiskopf & Jay Morrish design this golf course is fun to play. While it looks hard but plays easier don’t expect to go to a record low 29-under par like Phil did this year or Mark Calcavecchia did in 2001. If you knew what I knew and an opportunity to play TPC Scottsdale comes along you would do what I did. Love Weiskopf’s thinking and his golf design talents! Remember he did win a British Open though his four runner-up finishes at the Masters and comments on Jack Nicklaus do come to mind.

My favorite hole is the short par-4 17th which is 332 yards from the tips and only 254 yards from the whites. I hope you are “playing it forward” like I am these days and having a ton of fun on the golf course. Like Phil I hit it way left off the tee, so far left it stayed dry. Unlike Phil I pitched it up onto the green and 3-putted for bogey. I didn’t shoot 60, in fact I didn’t even shoot 1-under par on any hole. I guess I was too excited from my experience at the tournament. For me on that day the golf course looked hard and played hard too.

It was still cool to tee it up on the 16th with most of the Stadium still surrounding the hole. I thought I could imagine what it would be like doing so during the tournament but honestly I can’t say that I could. It did lead to one charity fund-raising idea. On Saturday let the biggest charity donors tee it up and hit tee shots on the 17th Stadium hole when time allows between the professionals. There is trouble on the water-logged par-5 15th and sometimes there is a gap in play.  What a thrill, what a rush it would be. Sort of a modern day coliseum swing and make contact or be consumed by the thirsty crowd. Even if they can get the club back I doubt anyone will hit it on or even close to the green. TPC and the PGA TOUR new ultimate Stadium Golf experience all for charity!

Everything is BIG at the WMPO even the chairs!

Everything is BIG at the WMPO even the chairs!

There were only 22 people, including Bobby Jones, who saw Gene Sarazen’s double eagle on the par-5 15th in the 1935 Masters. Quite a few more saw Tiger Woods’ ace on the 16th at TPC Scottsdale in 1997. About 20,000 of the 179,022 present saw James Hahn double-bogey the 16th on Saturday. But 20,000 saw him birdie it on Sunday and then dance his way off the green ‘Gangnam Style.’ What excitement at TPC Scottsdale!

http://www.pgatour.com/tourreport/2013/02/05/hahn-s-dance-new-youtube-hit.html

 I have to say I am a big proponent of TPC Sawgrass as the ‘Crown Jewel’ TPC Network of 30 prestigious courses. I live nearby, it is the ‘Home of THE PLAYERS Championship’ and we all know there are four majors but only one PLAYERS. Tiger Woods style this year. But I have to say that maybe TPC Scottsdale, ‘Home of the Largest Galleries in Golf’ is the ‘Western Crown Jewel’ of the TPC Network.  

Play it if you can, soon!

By the way, as far as Guinness records go… the largest one day golf tournament consisted of 1,562 participants at the Mission Hills Golf Club in Shenzhen, China, on June 25th, 2010, which is also the largest golf facility with twelve 18-hole courses. The greatest number of walking golfers to complete a full round on the same course within 24 hours is 632 and was achieved by The First Tee of Ireland, at Faithlegg Golf Club in Waterford, Ireland in June 2009.

But the number 179,022 will stick in my mind until at least next year. Who knows, maybe 200,000 plus at the 2014 Waste Management Phoenix Open?

 

This is the 48th edition of Golf Writer Andy Reistetter’s series of “Play-Write” golf travel articles.  

 

Andy Reistetter is a freelance golf writer and a broadcast assistant for the various golf networks. He spends time on all four major American golf tours- the PGA TOUR, Champions, Web.com and LPGA.

Reistetter resides within two miles of the PGA TOUR headquarters and the home of The PLAYERS Championship at TPC Sawgrass in Ponte Vedra Beach.

A lifetime golfer, Andy enjoys volunteering at the World Golf Hall of Fame and THE PLAYERS while pursuing his passion for the game of golf and everything associated with it.

Embark on a “Journey to Olympic Golf” with Reistetter in the Fall of 2013 as he travels from St. Louis, Missouri where golf was played in the 1904 Olympics to Rio de Janiero where it will be played again in the 2016 Olympics.

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Generation W: A Man’s Choice in a Women’s World

Photo Credit: WJCT TV

Photo Credit: WJCT TV

If you think about it, all of us, men and women, lived in a Women’s World very early in our lives. A woman helped us even before we could breathe, gave us the nourishment we needed and provided a comfortable place for us to rest and sleep. Though we did kick back a little, we were safe, nurtured and happy for the most part in those days of gestation.

What the heck happened? It was only a three or four inch trip down the birth canal from complete happiness to the real world. At that moment in time, we did not think a mother or any women knew what was best for us. After all it led us to a man’s world or at least what most men think is still a man’s world.

Mom & Me holding a picture book she made for me recalling all my life's special family memories!

Mom & Me holding a picture book she made for me recalling all my life’s special family memories!

I grew up with three sisters and a mother for the most part. Dad was a fireman who lived part time at the firehouse back in the days of 24-hour shifts. We had quality time together golfing, fishing and watching Johnny Carson on TV but it was my mother who ran the household. My two older brothers were off to college before I was in fourth grade. One thing I learned from my mom and remember to this day is that I should treat a girl the same way I would want another other boy to treat my sisters.    

How did I come to attend the Generation W Women’s Leadership Conference? Anybody who knows me knows the answer to that question—golf. Normally a freelance golf writer, the fairway I took to get there made sense, at least, in my own mind. I met Donna Orender, the founder and CEO of Generation W at TPC Sawgrass last fall. I knew she had previously worked for the PGA TOUR and ran the WNBA. I heard of the inaugural Gen W Conference last year but was out of town that week and missed it. I asked her if I could attend this year’s event and write an article about the experience. Her response was yes, please join us. It seemed to me as easy and fun as joining up with another golfer on the first tee at the golf course.

Generation W played to a lively audience in the packed Lazzara Performance Hall on the UNF campus.

Generation W played to a lively audience in the packed Lazzara Performance Hall on the UNF campus.

While I am comfortable playing golf with women I was a little out of my comfort zone arriving at what was advertised as a women’s conference. About a thousand woman of the Generation W converged on the campus of the University of North Florida in Jacksonville, Florida. Once I found my seat and the conference began, I felt somewhat comfortable being the minor minority if gender is considered a minority at all these days.

Was this going to be a women’s rally or a parley of leadership principles? The answer came in the very first presentation about transformational leadership. The presenters were newlyweds Carolyn Buck Luce and Rob Evans. This was going to be a marriage encounter weekend. Just kidding, their shared presentation about mountain climbing on their recent honeymoon was right on message and was a guide to reference my own journey through a day of presentations and networking functions.   

Donna Orender leading the Generation W Women’s Leadership Conference.

Donna Orender leading the Generation W Women’s Leadership Conference. Photo Credit: Donna Orender

Here are some of my lasting thoughts, impressions and hopefully learning from that day at the Generation W conference:

1.   Woman tend to find the center versus find the top. Maybe I would be happier and more fulfilled in the center?

2.   In a world of ME, in a world of increasing isolation despite technology, let’s choose to connect. I want and need to connect with other human beings.

 

3.   Most issues of Women’s Rights are not woman issues, they are human issues. I am human, these are my issues too even if I am a guy. It’s all part of living life in the center and being connected. Makes sense to me.

4.   Do we let other people define who we are? Who are you right now? I like Carolyn and Rob’s description: “I am the one who knows how to do this.” I can use that whether climbing a mountain, making a four foot putt to win or closing that sale at work. I am good at being Andy Reistetter. I bet you are good at being you too.

The name of Florida Blue's Pat Geraghty's talk was "My Take." After hearing him speak "my take" is he is a natural leader in all regards.

The name of Florida Blue’s Pat Geraghty’s talk was “My Take”. After hearing him speak, “my take” is he is a natural leader in all regards.

5.   This is a guy’s conference too. Yes there are cross-over role models in women but there were several other male speakers including Florida Governor Rick Scott and Pat Geraghty, the CEO of Florida Blue. The keynote speaker was Dr. Nancy Snyderman, Chief Medical Editor for NBC News who has a lot to say about the health of both men and women on the NBC Nightly News with Brian Williams.    

6.   “There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.” This is a quote from Madeleine Albright from her keynote speech at the Celebrating Inspiration luncheon with the WNBA’s All-Decade Team in 2006. Maybe a bit of a rallying cry but in reality there is a place in hell for any person who doesn’t help another person in life and it is not a special place to be.

I witnessed something pretty spectacular on tour earlier in the year at TPC Scottsdale. There were 179,022 spectators who came to the golf course on Saturday for the third round of the Waste Management Phoenix Open. The most ever I have seen and the most in history to witness a golfing competition for sure.

Gen W's Charlene Stirk interviewing Gov Rick Scott.

Gen W’s Charlene Stirk interviewing Gov Rick Scott.

In a different context I had the same feeling of awe, amazement and inspiration at the Gen W event of 1,000 on the UNF campus. Orender is on to something different and meaningful here. It wasn’t a gathering of political and corporate female titans and wannabes. This is the full heart and soul of cupcake makers, scientists, athletes and leaders who happen to be female. That is where they start in life but not where they will end. One can easily see the impact of today’s Gen W movement 20 years down the road.

Whether you are female or male, it doesn’t matter. Young or old, it doesn’t matter. Married or single, it doesn’t matter. Gay or straight, it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that we ourselves and every other person in this world have a choice.

Generation W is making a difference, not only in the lives of women but men too. All around the world, too; there is no telling where the little ripples that originated at the University of North Florida will travel to and make an impact.

Gen-W's Transformational-Leadership team of Carolyn-Buck-Lace and Rob-Evans.

Gen-W’s Transformational-Leadership team of Carolyn-Buck-Lace and Rob-Evans.

Back in the days when we were confined to a Women’s World we weren’t just safe, nurtured and happy. We were growing. Life is growth and change and if you don’t want to die just keep growing.

Embracing a woman in the sense of understanding how they see the world is “not simply a matter of emotion or altruism,” as Hilary Clinton stated. “A growing body of research tells us that supporting a woman is a high yield investment resulting in stronger economies, more vibrant civil societies, healthier communities and greater peace and stability.”

But you already knew that, right? After all you were not born yesterday.

Check out the Generation W website and I look forward to seeing you at next year’s conference!

 

Andy Reistetter is a freelance golf writer and a broadcast assistant for the various golf networks. He spends time on all four major American golf tours- the PGA TOUR, Champions, Web.com and LPGA.

Reistetter resides within two miles of the PGA TOUR headquarters and the home of The PLAYERS Championship at TPC Sawgrass in Ponte Vedra Beach.

A lifetime golfer, Andy enjoys volunteering at the World Golf Hall of Fame and THE PLAYERS while pursuing his passion for the game of golf and everything associated with it.

Embark on a “Journey to Olympic Golf” with Reistetter in the Fall of 2013 as he travels from St. Louis, Missouri where golf was played in the 1904 Olympics to Rio de Janeiro where it will be played again in the 2016 Olympics.

Original Journey to Olympic Golf in October 2013.

Follow-Up Journey to Witness Olympic Golf in August 2016.

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Don’t React to Life, Rather Act on Life, the TROML Way!

Don’t react unless you have to… a child in danger, the house is on fire or there is an accident with injury. Most times we don’t have to react especially to the words and the behavior of other people. After all can we really read their minds or know their intentions? Why not take some time to think and decide what our reaction, if any, should be? Isn’t a reaction an action in response whether it is delivered immediately or later at a more opportune time? Whose actions are we trying to mimic anyways? Our own true self or something we witnessed early in life or something we thought was real on television (remember those are paid actors and someone created the script… they might seem like real events but they are not!)

Being a writer can be a curse at times since if you write the words you have to think about each one. I am always seem to be thinking about storylines- the opening, the middle and the ending. People say things to me that come to them. Sometimes I take them as well orchestrated and definitive thoughts and I am trying to write the ending with a deadline. When I take other people’s thoughts literally and react to them it is a mistake on my part. People come to the realization it is not good for them to share their thoughts with me. When they don’t share with me I feel isolated instead of connected. So let’s let ideas and thoughts pop into our heads, not being sure where they come from, enjoy talking about them, and not draw any big conclusions. Okay?

There will always be time later to think and react, if needed. How many times do emergencies really happen in our lives after all? We like to make emergencies don’t we?

A thought is a thought. An idea simply an idea. Once we share a thought or idea, think about it and decide that it should be a plan, then we have something to work on, something to do. Otherwise let’s enjoy thoughts and ideas in a happy and fulfilled manner in the very moment they are shared!

Uh oh was that the smoke detector going off… got to go!

Have a TROML Day Today!

Anonymous Andy

Your Personal Revivalist

Leading with my Heart again, TROML Style…

_640 Forest YogaYogi played a mantra in yoga class this morning and made the comment that “a mantra helps to get us through our thoughts and connect us to our heart.” I can tell you a mantra is a sacred verse or sound and symbolically represents a spiritual experience. The simplest is the humming vibration “OM”. “OM is different than my other basic instinctive “Mmmm” as my friend likes to note when I am eating something good. While I can’t tell you what mantra was playing as we practiced our yoga I can tell you it helped connect some dots in my life, some that have seemed to be spinning out of control lately.

First of all these mantras and their effects are no different than some other common experiences we share in life- singing, listening to music, exercising, saying our prayers together in church, or praying silently in a mosque. Even golfing can be like a mantra when we “get in the zone.” Why do negative thoughts based on our fears sometimes seem to occupy our minds? What if I lose my job? What if I lose my health? What if she doesn’t love me or want to be with me anymore? Once these types of thoughts take over it seems like we drop out of the world of the living or are somehow confined to a dark place of our own making.

Of course mindfulness and being aware of how we think is a big help to keep us on the right path in life. A thought becomes an idea we focus on and then sooner or later it seems to come out of our mouth and leads to a behavior. So we can be vigilant on what we allow into our minds. Are we taking a single event and drawing a big conclusion from it without any intermediate steps or evidence? Are we mistaking feelings for facts? If I feel like a failure am I really a failure? Are we making assumptions about other people’s thoughts, feelings and even behaviors without validating them first? Has our thinking become lazy or nonexistent and we are simply reacting to what seems to be happening to us. Sometimes as Yogi likes to say “things just happen” versus “things always happen to me.”

So our mind and the thoughts within can sometimes mask our real personal power and spiritual connections. How do we activate our hearts and lead with them in our lives? Is it as simple as having good posture with our heart up and shoulders back. How do we stop slouching our way through life?

Yogi and his mantra reminded me this morning- to be true to myself I need to be connected to and lead with my heart. Yes, there are worldly decisions to be made about income and expenses and being a responsible citizen. But we also have to make good heartfelt decisions in our life. After all it is not what happens to us, or the words or actions that impact us that really matter. What matters is what comes out of us- our words and behaviors. They impact the real me.

So today it seems like I have reconnected to myself through my heart. Once again I am not afraid of leading with my heart or “losing myself.” I am ready to live life as though I am not afraid of what happens to me. I will be a happy and fulfilled me if I live without fear. My existence in this world will be complete and meaningful.

So too I am sure will be yours.

Mmmm that is good…   

Have a TROML Day Today!

Anonymous Andy

Your Personal Revivalist

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Stormy Days in Our Lives…

Stormy Days in Our Lives…

_640 Stormy BeachThere seems to be no avoiding stormy and difficult days in life. Like the seasons they come and go with some regularity and when they do it is a major storm that seems like none every experienced before.

A Tropical Storm came through last night and I made my way to the beach to exercise around low tide this morning. For the most part the storm had passed but the effects of the storm lingered on the beach as it seems the effects of personal issues always seem to hang around in our lives.

Upon seeing the beach my first thought was that there was a new layer of sand covering everything. The troves of beautiful seashells from yesterday were gone now buried in the sand. Or maybe they were washed far out to sea?

Isn’t that what happens sometimes when a storm comes into our lives? We survive it somehow and then bury the evidence like an old smelly dead turtle because that is what we have to do to survive. We have to insulate ourselves from the hurt.

Centuries later treasure hunters come digging in the sand and find those precious shells. Why can’t we go back and extract the learning and the inspiration from our failures in life or the failures of others in our lives? Maybe we can and prosper from the experience.

I looked out to sea and roughness of the waters even hours after the storm passed entered my thinking. Waves breaking, white water crashing and currents in every direction it seemed. How chaotic it must have been during the storm. I pictured a little boat trying to just survive the torrent waters of the angry seas.

My thoughts turned to a scene in Good Will Hunting with a painting tat depicts a similar setting. The first meeting between therapist Sean Maguire (Robin Williams) and old 20-Will Hunting (Matt Damon) did not go well. But later on they had a conversation about relationships- Maguire and his wife who died of cancer and Will’s emerging love affair with Skylar (Minnie Driver).

“People call these things imperfections but they are not, that is the good stuff. And then we get to chose who we let into our weird little worlds, you are not perfect sport, and let me save you the suspense, this girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is whether or not you are perfect for each other. That’s the whole deal. That’s what intimacy is all about. Now you can know everything in the world sport, but the only way you are finding out that one is by giving it a shot.” 

Giving it a shot… have we learned that the relationship with ourselves is perfect even though we are not?

Is it that time in life where we are willing but maybe not able to give it a shot with another human being?

Let’s not bury our heads in the sand for life is too short.

Storms come and go and so do our opportunities in life.

Is it time to give it a shot even though the storm has only just passed and stormy thoughts still remain in our head?

We are lucky because we are alive and have the opportunity.

For some the storms in life ended with loss of life.

Celebrate the essence of life and be happy when another storm comes through our lives…  

Have a TROML Day Today!

Anonymous Andy

Your Personal Revivalist

Low Tide Blues… Let’s Get Started with TROML Today!

Low Tide Blues… Let’s Get Started!

Low tide is a good time for beach exercise.

There is plenty of packed sand and room for jogging, bicycling or walking with friends.

Sometimes when the tide is out and the beach is desolate I feel the same way.

There are those times in life when friends and family seem distant, the excitement of life seems far away and it’s just me and my thoughts.

We miss the high tides of our life especially the stormy high-energy filled days.       

There’s nothing like big waves crashing at our feet to get our adrenaline going.

It’s so easy to avoid the low tide times in our lives by replaying and reliving old habits to placate ourselves with alcohol, food or whatever is our personal comfort go-to option.

Rationally that makes sense because at the moment our life seems empty, there is not a friend in sight and we need to take care of ourselves the best we can.

Though if we put ourselves in a place of calmness and really think about it we realize those trying times are really the best times to learn about ourselves and grow a bit more into the person we want to become.

What’s the purpose of my life is a good question to ask when you aren’t really sure.

Why not take a piece of paper (or TROML Journal) and simply do a “mind data dump” and brainstorm your thoughts and feelings at low tide moments?

Is happiness the purpose of my life?

Is seeking pleasure different from seeking happiness?

What would my life look like if I was completely fulfilled?

If I have a conversation with myself and write down these thoughts and then review them at a later time will I be able to learn anything useful from or about myself?

Perhaps this low tide period of your life has extended longer than in the past.

We would notice is the tide didn’t come in within six hours.

What have you noticed about yourself these past few weeks?

I believe no matter what the situation, whom the person is that the best answers come from within, from the inside-out.

Our world will tell you otherwise.

Some think you must purchase a certain item or service to be happy.

There are countless people and companies selling you what they think you want or need.

But there is only one person that really matters and that person is you.

I can help you begin that dialogue with yourself.

Is it getting back onto the road to happiness and fulfillment or simply hitting the accelerator pedal to get you down the road faster?

I can help you to learn to coach yourself.

In reality in life the low tides are as beautiful, as meaningful and as fulfilling as the high tides and every moment in between.

There are tremendous sources of energy, inspiration and personal power for you to connect to in our world today.

I am open and enjoy coaching people from all around the world via the internet.

Enjoy today, the absolute best day of your life, positively, absolutely without a doubt.

Have a TROML Day Today!

Anonymous Andy

Your Personal Revivalist